“Behind each person’s gridlocked position lies something deep and meaningful — something core to that person’s belief system, needs, history, or personality. It might be a strongly held value or perhaps a dream not yet lived.” ~John Gottman
Philosophy and Therapeutic Approach
One of the things I love most about therapy is discovering why we are the way we are—both as individuals and in our closest relationships. Each of us is shaped by a combination of genetics, life experiences, and learned beliefs—some helpful, some hurtful—and these influences don’t stop with us; they show up in how we connect, communicate, and respond to one another. Therapy offers a sacred opportunity to look back at where we have been, where we are currently, and where we are headed, both personally and relationally.
As your therapist, I consider it a privilege to walk with you on this journey—whether you come on your own or as a couple —not as someone who has all the answers, but as a caring, empathic presence committed to helping you process, reflect, and grow. My primary theoretical approach for individuals is cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), a research-supported framework that helps uncover the connection between our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. In couples work, this often means identifying patterns that keep partners stuck and learning new ways to respond to one another with clarity and intention. My approach for couples utilizes Gottman training, an evidence-based couple therapy assessments and tools. But therapy is more than theory; it’s a relationship. I will work to create a space where each person feels safe, heard, and respected. You are more than the face you wear in public—and in relationships, there is often more beneath the surface than either partner realizes. My desire is to truly know the real you and to help you know yourself—and one another—with grace and clarity.
Whether you’re dealing with anxiety, grief, trauma, spiritual questions, relational pain or disconnection, or just a general sense that life or your relationship isn’t what it could be, I will create a warm, non-judgmental space where you feel empowered to do the courageous work of healing—individually and together.
What to Expect in Therapy
Starting therapy takes a tremendous amount of bravery. It can be overwhelming to tell your story, to be vulnerable in front of someone new, or to speak openly about things that feel tender or unresolved—especially in the presence of a partner. I honor that courage.
In our sessions, you can expect a welcoming environment where all of you is safe—the questions, the doubts, the pain, and even the messy parts you’re not sure what to do with. This is a space where you don’t have to perform or defend yourself. You can breathe deeply and be real. When working with couples, we will focus on slowing things down, improving understanding, and creating space for healthier communication and reconnection. We will work together at a pace that feels right—there’s no pressure, only partnership.
My goal is to come alongside you, not to fix you or your relationship, but to support you in discovering clarity, healing, and forward movement. Think of it like organizing a cluttered garage: we might stir up some dust at first, but eventually we will be able to see what’s there, make sense of it, and create space—for growth, repair, and something better.
Personal Qualifications and Experience
I bring a unique blend of medical and pastoral experience into the counseling room. For the past 36 years, I have practiced as an eye doctor and have been actively involved in medical missions around the world. About 20 years ago, God called me into full-time ministry, which led my family to relocate from Illinois to Colorado to help plant a church in Reunion, a growing suburb near Denver International Airport. It has now grown into a vibrant 1,000-person church, where I currently serve as Lead Pastor.
These dual callings, medicine and ministry, have shaped how I see people. I’m attentive to both the physical and spiritual aspects of life, and I’m passionate about the integration of mind, body, soul, and spirit. I enjoy incorporating Christian faith into counseling work, if you desire, but I deeply respect wherever you are in your spiritual journey. My commitment is to meet you exactly where you are.
My approach is rooted in curiosity, compassion, and a deep belief that healing is possible—and that it’s never too late to grow.
Personal Interests
I’ve been married for 37 years, and we have three grown children, ages 20 to 27, and two grandchildren who have completely stolen our hearts. Although our family is spread across three states, we are intentional about staying close and spending time together as often as possible.
I love to travel and explore different cultures. Some of my favorite places include Honduras, Budapest, Berlin, Moscow, Jerusalem, and India. These experiences have broadened my view of humanity and deepened my appreciation for the rich diversity of perspectives in the world.
One of my personal long-term goals has been to “walk around the world” over a ten-year period, about 25,000 miles. That averages out to walking about 7 miles per day, every day, for 10 years. I’m currently in year 6 of that journey, and on pace to finish in 2029. Long-term goals keep me grounded and inspired.
When I’m not walking, counseling, or spending time with my family, you’ll find me enjoying great food, playing cards with friends, listening to a variety of music, and rarely missing an episode of Jeopardy.
Therapy is a courageous and deeply personal journey, and I am honored to walk that road with you. Let’s take the first step, together.
